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In the world of modern technology, careers, nannies, and creative gadgets, mothering is a bit different than what it used to be in the past. Times have changed and so have people. We are less trustworthy and more prone to be cautious and suspicious. Also with women working to have a successful career, the idea of even being a stay at home mom is rare and at times an oddity. Some of us career women think it’s insane for a woman to stay at home and be the housewife when there is choice to build her own successful life.
But what if we took a step back for a moment. What if we revisited some vintage mothering techniques and tried them for ourselves? To be honest, we let our kids run rampant and have some sort of control over our household. The dynamic is totally different compared to families of the past. While some people may scoff at the thought of a nuclear family, thinking it’s absurd and unrealistic. The ideals in it are still viable and should be applied to modern day families. We don’t need an app to be good mothers. Sometimes we just need to take what we learned from our mothers and grandmothers and apply a modern twist to it, or not, the preference and choice is up to you.
Maybe you don’t even know you are using these old school techniques. Would it shock you if it did? Maybe you learned it from your mother and thought it was a great method to raise children. Doesn’t sound so bad when you think of it that way, right? For example, are you really close with your family? Maybe your mother made it a thing for you to visit your grandparents weekly and there was a time you got bored of it (during those teenage years) but now you cherish your memories and your adorable little grandparents. Or maybe you’re extremely close to your mother because of all the time she made sure to spend with you even though she was busy working. We, now as modern mothers shouldn’t rely so much on technology and nannies to raise our young.
Keep reading if you want to know some vintage mothering techniques that still apply today.
- Enforce niceties. There are so many rude children now. It’s rare I ever get a “thank you” or “please” or “may I?” Or children just interrupt you mid-sentence without a care in the world. It’s not the proper way to raise our children. It’s also the way we lose control of our own household. So enforce no back talking and that your children are respectful and courteous to everyone, especially their parents.
- Also enforce proper manners. Besides niceties, we need to teach children manners. This means no screaming and running restaurants or stores. Just the other day at Trader Joe’s I witnessed two children knocking over a display shelf because they were running amuck. Their mother, it seemed, could have care less as she was perusing the meat section. It’s our responsibility as parents to make sure our children follow rules and behave accordingly in the public and to be respectful of other people and their belongings.
- No means no. Temper tantrums happen because some children know that if they fuss enough, their parents will give in to their demand. You as a parent cannot let your child win the battle. If she does something wrong, don’t reward her actions. Tell her “no” and be firm about it. When she throws a fit, ignore her behavior. Even if this means walking around with a screaming child. Or you can kneel down and quietly tell her to stop because her actions are not making it any better. Don’t yell or scream and make it worse.
- Have a chore list for your children to do. If they are old enough, have them start doing chores around the house. Nothing drastic, but have them pick up toys and put them back in their place or they can help you fold the socks out of the laundry. If they do all their chores, then reward them with a treat. This instills a work ethic they can apply when they get older. It shows them that hard work pays off.
- Limit their device use. In a world of tablets, phones, and computers your children are surrounded by technology. And while it is easier to keep your child entertained with an app on your phone, it doesn’t mean it’s right. Set a time limit every day for your child for when they use electronic devices. In turn, when they are off said device, you need to interact with them or have them do something in place of it. Your interaction with your child develops their interpersonal skills.